The old self is the raft we hold on to like shipwrecks. With a raft, however, you do not reach Ithaca; you just survive. This is the survival mode. The aim is to leave behind this survival mode and pass to the state of creation and real life.
Odysseus abandoned his raft and traveled on the fast ship of the Phaeacians.
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